Three Ways to Survive Your Divorce with Integrity

By Sheryl Rentz on October 7, 2014

When it’s time to end a marriage, most people find themselves in a state of emotional turmoil. It’s important to honor your feelings during this time and to seek help from a doctor or therapist if necessary. But it is also important to keep your head and to be willing to focus on “business” matters – especially if yours is a high-asset divorce.

Experienced Pennsylvania divorce attorneys recommend these three steps to helping you navigate the divorce process with integrity and give yourself the objectivity you need to ensure your needs and those of your children are met:

1. Set boundaries. Once you have separated from your spouse, limit conversations. Stay polite, but focus solely on business: “What time will you pick up the kids from school today?” Be clear and firm, and stick to the facts whenever possible. Resist the urge to dive into personal topics, rehash old arguments, or bring up new emotional hurts – and never, ever argue if the kids are present.
2. Act with intention. You cannot control how your spouse acts or what a court might ultimately decide. But you can choose to navigate your divorce thoughtfully and to make the well-being of your children the first priority. Tell your partner that you want to separate equitably and that your first concern is your children’s well-being. Clarifying that you are not “on the warpath” can do much to settle tensions and make the separation process easier.
3. Choose a lawyer you trust. Choose a lawyer who represents your interests and whom you trust to keep your information confidential and to look out for your best interests. With your lawyer, work to create a specific strategy for your divorce based on your needs and the needs of your children, if any.

The experienced Pennsylvania divorce attorneys at the Law Offices of Sheryl R. Rentz can help you preserve your interests while resolving your family law matters. Contact us today to learn more about the legal services we provide.