Practical Solutions to 3 Financial Fights Couples Have

By Sheryl Rentz on April 11, 2012

Marriage is certainly difficult, and a number of things may put a strain on an otherwise happy twosome. Newlywed or not, one of the most common things for a pair to fight about is finances, which is also one of the primary reasons a couple may get a divorce. In recognition of this unfortunate fact, Creditcards.com offers their assistance by providing solutions to several financial problems couples frequently fight about. After interviewing relationship and financial experts, here is the information that can help you avoid a future money-related spat with your partner:

1. Lying about purchases: Lying about money, i.e. not telling your significant other about that expensive purchase you just made or “rounding down” the amount spent, is risky for a couple’s financial health and may cause the other person to be mistrustful or feel betrayed. How to fix it: Make a date to have an honest discussion about spending habits and limits, and check back in with each other regularly. Making a date will reinforce that you are a couple working together as team.
2. “I make more than you”/“You don’t earn enough”: The amount of money each partner makes can be a hot button issue, and those who make more and brag about it end up belittling their partner, though they may simply be worried about your joint financial future. How to fix it: Rather than point out the wage disparity in your union, consider the other’s contributions by making a list, such as cleaning the house or running errands. If the list shows that one of you could be doing more, make a plan to fix it.
3. What you “want” is not viewed as a “need” by your partner: Something one of you wants and sees as a necessity, the other sees as a luxury, such as buying clothing, electronics, or vacations. One person constantly satisfying his or her “wants” can spell trouble for a twosome. How to fix it: Make a “matched pairs” list in which each person lists their wants and needs and compare to see what matches up. Make a goal and budget to buy items that match up, and anything not mutual should receive less priority.

Using these simple solutions to solve common financial problems can help you and your partner have a more harmonious, argument-free union. However, simple advice may not always be enough to resolve problems in a marriage. If you have made the decision to get a divorce, Montgomery County divorce lawyer Sheryl R. Rentz is a knowledgeable divorce attorney who can help you throughout the entire process. For more information on how she can help, call (610) 645-0100.