Moving On After a Breakup or a Divorce

By Sheryl Rentz on June 24, 2015

Getting a divorce is one of the most significant, life-changing events you will ever go through. Filing the paperwork and fighting in court is stressful, but your transition is only beginning. Some find that coping, moving on, and healing is just as challenging as breaking up. It is important to remember that help is out there and there are those who support you and will be there for you. Don’t be afraid to reach out and talk to the people who care about you.

One of the challenging parts of moving on is remembering all the shared goals and dreams. It is hard to feel anything but disappointment when thinking of the commitments you had and the plans you hoped to achieve together. These feelings are normal. Just because your original goals have changed doesn’t mean that you will feel as bad tomorrow, the day after, or the day after that.

Remember, it’s normal to feel angry, sad, tired, and frustrated. Your reaction, as extreme as it may feel right now, is normal and okay. The amount of frustration and grief you feel over the breakup will lessen in time.

You are not alone. Sharing your feelings with friends and family is key to transitioning through this period. You can even join a support group to talk to people going through similar situations.

Cut yourself some slack. Don’t beat yourself up about the way you feel or what went wrong. Allow yourself to function at a less than optimal level while you heal. No one is capable of being perfect when he or she is going through something difficult. You will get there with time.

While it is normal to feel depressed after a relationship ends, the amount of time that you grieve should be finite. There is a difference between a normal reaction to a breakup and severe depression. If your sadness is not lifting and you feel no momentum building towards the life you want to live, don’t be afraid to seek out help.

At The Law Offices of Sheryl R. Rentz, P.C. we understand how difficult divorces can be, which is why we treat our clients like family and give them both legal and emotional support. Contact our office today if you have need guidance regarding any family law issues.